and if you see us in the club/ you'll be watchin all night

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Whenever I hear songs that shout about "Me, Myself and I" and you know, the constant reiteration that all you have at the end of the day is yourself, I laugh.

Okay, its what sells the records at one end of the extremes, singing about being alone, themes that play from unrequited love, being left, leaving someone, dealing with being alone....this dealing with some form of supposed brokenness as to why at the end of the day we are alone, but screw that, we're better off alone anyway!

Are we really?

Better off alone?

I dont mean alone without a partner, a lover, a boyfriend, a girlfriend. I mean alone, without the world, alone facing the world. Its more idyllic hearing songs about "its you and me against the world" than "its me me me! only! me! alone! forreever! yay!"

Because, well, while it IS empowering, while it IS liberating, and at some level I know that while it's true, that all you really have is yourself at the end o the day, songs like that are hardly what we really want at the end of the day. And yet

When it all comes down to it, all we really want is to be close to somebody.

No, hear me out.

Thats why loneliness kills and can lead to depression, holidays must never be spent alone, and why touch is often the most powerful and tear inducing human sense. Its why hugs are often used to relieve someone's grief, why kisses can soothe someone's sadness, why innocent cuddles can fuel one's lust, why tickling can make someone's day, why dancing is considered almost another form of foreplay, why people confuse lust with love, why you can hear someone excusing their promiscuity by saying they tried to kill the pain and so on and so forth...

Its why some people stay in relationships that go nowhere, or persist in maintaining relationships where theyre not really in love with their partner, but HEY ITS BETTER THAN BEING ALONE. That fear of growing old alone gnaws at you.

Amazingly, just being with someone else, however way, emotions be damned, spending time with someone, even in silence, can be enough to cure most heartaches, even temporarily. Nothing like being with someone who you know *gives a damn* about you. And while touch is powerful, hearing someones caring voice over the phone, receiving a sweet text, being nudged on MSN (thanks, technology), can sometimes be just as overwhelming.

So this action by which we all keep our distance, stay away, pretend not to care about each other, it's almost always a big load of B freaking S.

We pick and choose who we really want to remain close to, and these chosen people are often thoe ones we stick close by to, no matter how much we hurt them or vice versa. Coz these people, right, (and you know you have yours), they are the ones that are still with you at the end of the day, despite it all.

The ones who know all about you, and stick by your side anyway, those are the ones worth keeping. They know about that scandal, they know about that fear,and they dont care. They know you beyond the public image your portray and damn them, theyre there for you anyway!


And if youre very lucky, and youre very blessed, as you read this, you were picturing your exact people in your mind. You lucky thing.

Okay okay, sometimes close can be too close, way too close, like omg get out of my life get your own life close. Like, omg you know about that!? close.

But sometimes, at the end of the day, its these people we fall to. And even if theyre distant geographically, even if you havent seen each other in years, when you meet again, it is always beautiful.

Because these people we run to, we know that theyre gonna be the ones catching us. And we'd do the same thing for them.

No matter if its too close. Sometimes, that invasion of personal space,that little moment of clarity that youre not really alone.. it can be exactly what you need.

Sometimes reputations outlive their applications, and theyre the very people who outlive it with you.

Don't get me wrong now. You CAN make it in this world alone. But if given a choice, do you really want to?

And that, ladies and gents, is why I laugh at those songs. Cheers.